The Life of an Adult Child of an Alcoholic
Dear Deadbeat, Our chapter is coming to an end. It’s been a little more than 30 years since I was 24 years old and I told you that I was pregnant. We were both living in Hollywood. Living the dream that most 20-year-olds only dreamt about. Hitting the hottest clubs, being around the prettiest people […]
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As I sit here on the cliff’s edge, overlooking the ocean, I wonder what happened. Was three weeks apart just too long for you to still adore me? Or, did you have time to think? Getting to know someone isn’t easy, especially when you haven’t had enough time. It’s not always rainbows and sprinkles. As […]
Read MoreIt wasn’t until recently that I came to realize how my rape truly affected me. At the age of 16, I lost my virginity to being raped. I never before realized how for decades, this act plagued me, and my encounters and involvements with men. I minimized the violation, to being passed out for most […]
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Every once in a while I come across this picture. I have a few pictures from this night in 1986. I always had a camera handy to capture anything and everything. I’ve probably captured too many memories that most would like to forget. But, the more times that I have come across this image, I […]
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I’ve lived in fear of speaking up most of my life. I’ve only challenged it sometimes. Covid and quarantining makes you really have time to think. It gives you the time to work on things about yourself that you may want to change or the things about your life that you may want to overcome. […]
Read MoreGrief, Sex, and Love After Matt passed, almost nine years ago, I thankfully was unemployed. I would have never been able to work after he died. It was hard enough to get my son to school; it was a 20+ minute drive from where we lived. I wasn’t able to sleep. I’d sit up in […]
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Do I either have no reaction or pretend not to acknowledge when you call me, sexy? Yes. Other times I just cringe when I’m called, sexy. Maybe it is because I don’t think of myself as sexy. Maybe I truly don’t like or understand the word, sexy, and why it is used. Maybe it is […]
Read MoreI used to be consumed with negative ways, more so, my thinking was negative. It didn’t help that my situation at home sucked. Life within an alcoholic home (mother is/was an alcoholic) is very chaotic and it is especially worse when the alcoholic is not so nice when she is under the influence. Fighting, verbal/emotional/mental […]
Read MoreMy dad was good in the kitchen. He had his dishes that not any one of us could recreate like he made them. I am still trying to get his Carbonara recipe down or even to be somewhat similar to his. His bolognese was great, too. He tried to teach me a few times how […]
Read MoreWhat a rollercoaster ride of emotions today. I’m experiencing soon one of my happiest and proudest days of my life ~ my son will be graduating from UCLA tomorrow with a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology and a minor in Music Industry. It has been one amazing journey to get here with the struggles, disappointments, challenges, […]
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